Wendy Dana Carter

  • Born: November 18, 1954
  • Died: August 11, 2012
  • Location: La Jolla, California

El Camino Memorial - Sorrento Valley and El Camino Memorial Park

5600 Carroll Canyon Rd.
San Diego, CA 92121

Tel. (800) 352-2646

Tribute & Message From The Family

Message From The Family

Thank you for your support during this difficult time. Please enhance this tribute to Wendy by adding your memories and photos.

Our beautiful daughter, mother, sister, aunt, niece, cousin and friend passed away on Saturday, August 11 at the much too young age of 57. Wendy was a devoted, spiritual person with overflowing love in her heart for all who touched her life. Even throughout her difficult illness, she never complained, was always cheerful and positive, and put others' needs before her own.

Wendy leaves behind her children, Freddie and Pauline; mother Lanie; brother Bill; sisters Sue and Elli; nieces Dayna, Brooke, Kelly, Piper, Violet, Sofia, and Marie; nephews Bryan, Aron, Nate, Eric, Joshua and Max; special aunts Cooch and Katie; and many beloved cousins and wonderful friends. She was predeceased by her loving father, William Carter.

The family would like to thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. We would ask you please respect the family's privacy at this time. We would like family and friends to join us in a celebration of Wendy's life to be held at a future date. Please sign Wendy's guest book and leave your email address.

Condolence & Memory Journal

Time with Wendy was genuine, personal, precious. Her depth and breadth of friends speaks well of her soul. No longer earthbound. Fly Wendy, circle in the sky, swim deeply, never having to surface. You are free. thanks for being my friend, for sharing and caring. love, Diana

Posted by Diana Holm - Fallbrook - a friend   February 22, 2015


Hugs and kisses forever, I am glad our paths crossed, they will again, my sweet and dear friend.

Posted by SHARON BECKWITH BAILEY - GREELEY, CO - friend   August 04, 2014

We met at nine years of age. We instantly became best buds. I used to call you Angel and you called me Sloopy. I'd play Trolls with you if you'd play Barbie with me. We kept in touch all these years, went threw a lot. To this day I miss your kind words, hugs and memories of a great childhood together. The teen years were a blast! Even though very hard on our moms! I will see you again someday, my dear friend, you are always in my spirit and hard. God bless.

Posted by sharon beckwith bailey - greeley, CO - best friends   August 04, 2014


I love you Wen I love how you always hugged me tightly whenever we saw each other, and however much time had passed it took just that hug to catch up. You taught me so many important things - how to dance especially. You are the only person I would swim far into the ocean with. You were so brave, sometimes you thought I was strong but you were always stronger. My beautiful friend - peace, go light up the universe like you did for all of us here.

Posted by Marcia Clancy Spencer - CA - friend   December 06, 2012

Obviously beautiful with a a deep, sweet kind soul, Wendy blessed us all with the grace in which she lived her life.

Freddie and Pauline, you were her stars, she loved you both and loved being a mother more than life itself. My heart aches for you. It would not be Wendy's choice to leave, but your mother gave you 'love & lessons to last an eternity' and the warmth of your family and Wendy's numerous caring friends will always be yours, most surely.

Carry her love in your hearts always.

God bless her family and friends. I will be at Marine Street in spirit.

Lee (Alana's mom)

Posted by Debi Lee Koerner (Miller) - La Jolla, CA - Friend   September 07, 2012

I remember meeting Wendy in 9th grade and thinking she was cool. I also remember swimming in the Carter's swimming pool every summer. I went to college in Washington and I would come back to La Jolla for Christmases and summers. Wendy and I would always get together. In the summers, we would meet at the Carter's pool at least once. I met Fred when I came home once with my husband Lopsang. Then one by one I met her beautiful children on vacations in La Jolla. Finally, I came home one summer and was on reduced activities because I was pregnant at 40 with twins so I missed the pool but not Wendy. Our conversations had grown from teenage concerns, to wild 20's, to married women and then mothers. After my kids were born they went to the Carter's pool as babies, then toddles and then 7 year olds. Our kids played together and we discussed the joys and challenges of motherhood, both raising biracial children and our lives. I know she was a wonderful mother with a tremendous amount of love for her beautiful children. After my mom passed away 10 years ago I have only been to La Jolla once. I think that time she was moving to Georgia. We remained close with Christmas cards. I got her card this year but mine was returned a month later. In retrospect I feel so sad that I didn't respond sooner. I am sorry I didn't know how sick she was. In June I wrote back telling her I wanted to see her at the reunion. I never heard back. I miss her so much.

Posted by Naomi Jane Allender Sherpa - Bend, OR - Friend since High school   August 24, 2012


My sweet girl, You mothered my child when I was working nights. We mothered our children together when we had more! I was once your mentor only to become your student. Wise and soft; forgiving and loving. A lifetime we shared full of bumps and scrapes; insights and gratitudes, laughter and misbehaving. But mostly my darling Wendy for you it was all about love and a belief in a power greater than ourselves. A love for your children so great. A verve for life so palpable. I will miss you dear friend, dear sister. And to your family, who meant so much to you, I send all of you my love. I know Wendy. I know......It's all good sweetie. My heart is still broken, Lauren (Roel) McLemore

Posted by Lauren Roel McLemore - San Diego, CA - kindred spirits   August 20, 2012

Wendy, Heaven has just gotten a bit more beautiful now that you have relocated. You were such a sweet and kind person always so generous with compassion towards others even when you were suffering with your difficult illness your focus was on appreciating others. I pray God will help comfort your lovely family members and all who knew you, ...until it is time to meet again.
Kris Pernicano

Posted by Kris Pernicano - La Jolla, CA   August 20, 2012

I can't describe what Wendy meant to me. Her spirit saved my life...God put us in each others lives and for a reason. My heart is aching as I am only just now learning of her passing. I want to call her, to see her, to hug her, to tell her I love her and to thank her for giving me hope in myself and loving me unconditionally. She was my lighthouse. My Rock. She showed me a path to God and I'll never ever forget her for as long as I live. My heart and prayers go out to Pauline and Freddy---amazing people whom she adored and cherished. I hope to be a mother like her some day with my son. I love you, Wendy. Please know how much I love you.

Posted by Lauren - San Diego, CA - Friend of Bills   August 20, 2012


Wendy, your leaving us is an almost unbearable loss. You and I have been part of each other's lives since we were nine years old and your family moved into my neighborhood. Growing up together in the circle, we later chose to become spiritual sisters. We've shared the important moments of each other's lives and have remained close through good and bad times. You joked that I was responsible for your children, since I introduced you to Big Fred, and I was honored to be at the hospital when Fred IV was born.

I prayed every day since your disease became acute that a new, effective treatment would become available to you. Unfortunately, this was not to be and your body continued to weaken. Your incredible, loving spirit, however, remained strong until the end. I cherish, and am saving, the texts you sent me in the weeks before you left us. Although you were getting sicker, your humor and beauty are apparent in them. You will remain my closest friend and sister forever; I know we will meet again.

I will always love and be available for your children, Lanie, and the rest of your family.
May God bless you beautiful lady, rest in peace.

Posted by Marcy Worthington - Lakeside, CA - Friend   August 18, 2012

So very sorry to hear the sad news. Our family grieves that such a special person is no longer with us.

Posted by The Gomez Family - San Geronimo, CA - friend of the family   August 17, 2012


Although it's been 40 years, i remember her well. She was a kind and gentle person. Condolences to the family.

Posted by Sandy Geib Benson - Classmate LJHS   August 17, 2012

Wen., We met when we were 9 years old. We were best friends all our lives. I loved you like a sister. I am missing you so much. Words are hard, I hope you are in a good place. We all love and miss you. God bless your family who I got to share many good times with. Shalom my Angel, Love, Sharon

Posted by Sharon Beckwith bailey - Greeley, CO - friend   August 17, 2012


My condolences to the entire family. My prayers are with you all.

Posted by Nanette Coleman - Lynwood, CA - Friend   August 16, 2012

Wendy- we all missed seeing you at the 40th LJ High class reunion, and
I just learned today why. This is a perfect example of why life can be so unfair. We go all the way back to Decatur Elementary, then Muirlands Jr.

The few times I had seen you since graduating- I could not believe how
trim and beautiful you stayed. One of the shimming stars of our little
La Jolla neighborhood.

Rest in Peace dear wendy,


Posted by Barney Roach - Del Mar, CA - Class Mates since Decatur   August 16, 2012


I love you and miss you Aunt Candle.

Posted by Brooke    August 16, 2012


To Wendy's loved ones, family and friends,

Wendy touched many lives positively, as was evidence by the outpouring of love, sharing and concern at our 40th La Jolla High reunion activities this past weekend. A classmate of Wendy's since 7th grade, I have fond memories of her gentle spirit, a diminutive stature but huge heart, being so pretty, laughing and being a friend to all.

I haven't seen Wendy since high school, but it is so apparent she was loved in every role she held and that she showered her love to those who were lucky to be in her life.

My deepest regrets extend to Wendy's family. Blessings to each of you. Bruce Robinson Classmate Muirlands Jr High 1979 & La Jolla High 1972

Posted by Bruce Robinson - San Diego, CA - Classmate   August 16, 2012


I love you my Aunt Candle.

Posted by Dayna Stacey-Nollet - Imperial Beach, CA - Niece   August 16, 2012


Wendy your love of Life and the Ocean, are things I will always remember about you. Your gentle kindness and smile will be missed. I still have images of you when you were seventeen. That beautiful Blond Girl, wearing the brick red corduroy bell-bottom jeans, with the gentle smile. I will think of you every time I visit WindanSea. My deepest regards to the immediate family members. Bob Stacey

Posted by Bob Stacey - La Jolla, CA - Brother in law.   August 16, 2012

To Wendy's Family:
Sending you all thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time. We learned of Wendy's illness late last week as the final preparations for our LJHS 40th class reunion 8.11.12 were being finalized. Everyone was asking about Wendy and when word reached each person that she was very ill our hearts went out to her and her family ... What a bright, bubbly, and loving spirit -- Wendy was radiant! .. I remember running into her in La Jolla probably 15 years ago and she was just as warm and friendly as ever even though we hadn't seen each other in many years. It is sad to think she no longer walks among us, but I have trust and faith that she is in a beautiful place and that her spirit will continue to dwell with all of us ... so thankful for the gift of having crossed her path ... My husband, Curt (also a classmate of Wendy's) sends his thoughts and prayers to Wendy's family as well ... With love and sympathy, Marcia Gravette Littler (& Curt Littler)

Posted by Marcia Gravette Littler    August 15, 2012

God bless you, Wendy. Your spirit and memory are with us all forever.

Posted by Jim Nau - Ramona, CA - An Old Friend   August 15, 2012


To Wendy's family,

We were so sad to hear of Wendy's passing on the day of our La Jolla High School 40th class reunion....I realized from your notice that she was born just 5 days after I was.....I recall that she was a very cute, nice girl, although I didn't know her well, I remember she was always smiling, and I did see her at one of our class reunions, and she seemed just as young and vivacious as she was in high school. My sympathies to all of you at this difficult time with such a tremendous loss.

God bless you all. Take care.

Alison Boyer

Posted by Alison Boyer - Ventura, CA - classmate from La Jolla High   August 15, 2012

Dearest Carter family:

I am so saddened to hear of Wendy's passing. She was such a huge part of my childhood and the memories are so wonderful, with all the gang on the "circle." Wendy was so loving and caring....the world will miss her dear spirit. Deepest sympathy to you all and sharing lots of love from all the Nau's.

Carol Nau Broad

Posted by Carol Broad - la Jolla, CA - Friend   August 15, 2012

Darling Wendy,

I cherish our memories and times together Naomi and I went to Windansea today and your vision kept coming through loud and clear. Sweet travels on your new journey.

Love always,


Posted by Lynn Minor - San Diego, CA - Friend   August 15, 2012

I was a classmate of Wendy's and always remembered her sweet and genuine spirit. She left is all better off for having known her. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time. Please let me know when you have the celebratin of Wendy's life as I would much like to be there

Posted by Ina Wilkinson Masten - San Diego, CA   August 15, 2012


I love you, Wednesday. I will miss you dearly, my oldest, dearest friend. I will think of you every time I look out upon our beautiful Windansea.

Posted by Melinda Dorr Boehm - La Jolla, CA - Old friend   August 15, 2012

I have great memories of Wendy, Melinda, and Sharon cruising around La Jolla. Such good times!

Posted by Larry Ledingham - Carbondale, CO - Long time friend   August 15, 2012

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Class of 1972
Wendy April 1992
Wendy & Friends August 1966

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Life Stories

Wendy, thank you so much for being there for Jennifer. I know that she always thought the world of you and appreciated all you did for her.

Sis, I loved you from the day you were born and always will. I will miss you so much. Your friend and big sis, Sue